Nigerian blogger., Joel Williams took to his timeline to question Nigeria’s judgemental comments about Relationship Blogger Blessing Okoro.
He wrote;
Dear Blessing,
Happy Birth Day To You, I am sorry it’s coming late, I don’t know how I can get this message across to you privately, especially when I know your email will most certainly be choked with emails from well-wishers, bad mouthed urchins in other words, Haters, I want you to believe this letter is totally not for the purpose of clout chasing and seeking attention as some people will call it, seeking attention from people with no moral justification to judge me is of no use to Me.
I want you to read this letter in the light of a conversation with me, imagine me conversing with you in the balcony, verandah or comfort of any place that facilitates warm gatherings, sights of rooftops and trees, of people who are not aware of our prying eyes.
When I first saw your post about the House, I was rejuvenated with hope, I swear to whatever god you serve, I was happy, I was glad that you were able to achieve something, I have always read BOM and your success story was another one that should have been featured on the blog page But then it turned out to be false, and when I saw the stories, I laughed, to be honest, I laughed from a place of “Wow..like this is a joke” and when it turned out to be true; You didn’t own the House. My mind was blank. At that moment..If I could run down and be of any assistance to you emotionally, physically I would have…all I did was pray that you scale through. I felt you needed help or assistance of some sort to get out of the emotional trauma and mentally deteriorating comments Nigerians will throw at you.
Indeed you told a lie, But I don’t see your lie as a reason why I should hurt myself as most people say, some people said, “She deserves what she is receiving, her fake life is the reason many are committing suicide, her fake life is putting pressure on people to steal and commit fraud” BUT then I didn’t feel that way, I searched myself for any pressure i must have felt when I saw the Initial of your story but I couldn’t find any, all I found were wishes, wishes that you truly owned the house, wishes that those badmouthing you will be silenced and flushed down the WC.
So I have a question; “If true, the house was yours …why should your success, your own achievement be an issue to another person, pressurize another person into committing fraud, kidnap and armed robbery to achieve what you achieved, instigate somebody to commit suicide and NOT Inspire hope or be some sort of motivation like it motivated me?” I ask again “Why?”
The reason, I asked you that question was so you don’t feel guilty to the point of depression, yes you told a lie, and to me…its a lie that was meant to keep me strong and motivated…a lie that gave me strength to keep fighting and struggle to accomplish all my goals, I would pick your lie over the lie our government has fed the general public for ages.
I feel your lie should have instigated humour and not hate, anger and curses from Nigerians, I somehow feel that those hateful comments were not because you lied about your house but due to age long beef, misogynistic attempts to bring you down, intents to objectify you because you are a woman.
Yea, I have told lies, I have even lied this morning, “I told my Aunt I didn’t have credit for flashing, But the truth is I did have airtime, enough for a call to last more than hour, but I lied because I needed to buy data, my bank account is having issues with buying data directly” and that is the only lie I have told until now I am typing this. I will give my aunt money to buy airtime for her phone later. Although I am broke at the moment.
So please blessing be safe, I am so happy you are fine, come back on Instagram..share photos, keep BOM Active, IGNORE the Righteous 21st Century Pharisees that have refused to accept your Apology, What matters is that you have apologized, which is expected, and you have asked God to forgive you and God been merciful has forgiven you sweet heart, If God has forgiven you, the forgiveness from people who would probably go and cheat on their partners, lie, fornicate, defraud another person, tell a more damaging lie than you told IS USELESS.
I look forward to a sublime encounter with you, please…stop limiting comments, let’s keep them coming, you are a blogger you should have developed a thick skin for silly comments by now…I am a BOMITE!! I Love You Blessing, I Mean It.
Joel Williams.